You might have people in your life who are very joyful, and usually they reach their goals easily. Nonetheless, they suck your life out without any bad intent while staying jubilant and supportive. They always keep you depressed with their undesirable behaviours and actions. Their manipulating tactics spoil your positive attributes and always discourage your motives for personal improvement. — Who are they in your life?
They are the ‘toxic’ people — the ‘narcissists’ who are apparently very reasonable but ruin your life quietly. They will take away your self-respect, and kill your dreams. They secretly have a baneful influence over your reputation and your esteem.
Here is a list of those toxic people who are always around you as friends and maybe family members, but in fact, they impede all your improvements and bring you only setbacks.
The Control Freaks
They manipulate you often by psychological means and make you doubt your reputation and question what you actually deserve. Such toxic people hate your self-esteem and dislike the personality you have refined in yourself. You may have friends or family members who love to tell you, “You enhanced a lot, but you’re too sensitive”, “you aren’t the person I like” or “don’t be over-smart”. — They will do anything to control your mind.
Positivity Haters
They always scorn your positive thinking and disdain your faith in your qualities. Every time you want to be positive or confident in yourself, the toxic person will aimlessly point out everything of yours; “yeah, you’re right, but…” or “I don’t think so” or “no, don’t do so”. — These naysayers will reverse every gain you have made. They’re the people who can’t help in the house.
Wisdom Mongers
They are always attentive and responsive, and they pretend to have an answer for every question you have. They feel capable of give advice on any subject, regardless of whether they have the wisdom they’re dispensing. — This type of toxic person tries to seem smarter than you, despite the fact that they have never been around great people or read a single book in their entire life. Their actions and sayings lack appositeness and always change from point to point purposelessly.
Shaming Vampires
They use every tactic to shame you for your qualities and skills. They come up with negative arguments and hate what you love or who you are. They use to say; “Don’t show your skills everywhere, it’s awkward” or “You talk too much, others hate this” or maybe “don’t be outspoken very time”. They become envious of your personal improvements and positivity because they can’t rejoice in your capabilities and competence. — Ultimately, they make you feel ashamed of what makes you ‘You’.
Tonal Monsters
They will speak adequate and fair words, but their tone of voice will convey something unacceptable and spiteful. Their phrases are like; “Yeah, I know your rules” or “I hope, you fulfil your promise” or “You’re very trustworthy”. They downgrade your positive approach with suspicious reactions — and conclusively, they bring you guilt for discussing and sharing things.
Focus Shufflers
They have no responsibilities in their own lives and have nothing great to do. Neither they will focus on what you do or say, nor will they face any tough situations. They hate your straight forward thinking and well-focused directions. With phrases like “Ok fine, anything else…” or “leave it, listen to me…” or “will talk about… some other time” — sometimes they will try to make you focus on their issues and interests. They become combative when you talk about the lapses in their arguments or judgements about you. They cause your frustration and have no motive for growing. Undoubtedly, they sap your energy and diminish your good fortune.
Push and Pull Hogs
They are always silly when they are around you. These toxic people love to push you out of your limits, then pull you back to your bounds and enjoy keeping you in line. Subsequently, they get you to tolerate and accept them with uncaring and unsupportive attitude. — Often they use to say “calm down,” pretending to be more rational and behaving like a child. Eventually, they take away your self-respect.
Gossip Hucksters
Most of the time, they feel insecure and distort facts. When you try to talk seriously, they hawk their annoying chitchat. They bring in inessential gossip to be recognised everywhere and get attention. They have an undesirable teasing habit and never let others be appreciated. When you try to solve a problem or help others, they will try to drain you of your positive attributes. — These idlers will tear you down one day.
Cheat-specialists
These people are masters at sucking your blood in the name of love and relationships. Infidelity in the guise of friendship is one of their worst traits. Constantly reliant on the support of others, they allow sinful relationships for their own gains and betray you. When confronted, they bite you back to justify their insincerity. They pause the saga for the time being, but the next moment, they produce a new episode.
They continue to receive your support and sincerity without letting you sense their fakery. They cherish you for demonstrating your commitment to them by standing by them in their darkest hours. Once their worst time is over, they feel entitled to trash your sincerity, and love for their own pleasure. As soon as they have another option, they’ll drive the first blade into your chest, feeling no guilt or sympathy.
In their lives and relationships, they don’t have any limits or responsibilities. They live like imposters and deceive every one of their loved ones, including you.
Their commitment and promises to you are inscribed in the sand. Your feelings are worthless to them. They do not think twice about making your life miserable and leaving you in tatters and pieces for their own personal satisfaction.
Habitual-liars
I think some lies are not noxious. However, liars ruin their relationships and sabotage their reputations and yours too. They live a disgraceful life with their guilt. They struggle to maintain their composure with multiple fake faces.
They can’t hold their dignity while carrying many fake versions of themselves. They give themselves every rank they do not actually possess. They may be adept in a single or multiple skills, but they consistently lack personal wisdom about anything else. By utilising their worst flaws, other people compound their regrets and blunders.
They are their own worst enemies. In real life, they never live up to what they preach. Their words and actions are consistently at odds with each other. They adopt a constant lifestyle of lying and hypocrisy. They could never be faithful and committed to you or anybody else, not even to themselves and their loved ones.
Other Negative Nellies
There are some other types of toxic people, who drain your brain out and kill your capacity to be inspired. For example; — Cheaters, Habitual Liars, Backbiters, Gold-diggers, Braggers and many more — can poison your life. I didn’t list them above because they had no existence in my life. Nonetheless, I would like to add a few lines about those narcissists too.
Backbiters — They are so nice and caring to your face, but as soon as you turn away, they forsake you. Their problem is to get attention and please everyone they meet. They lie and twit about everything about you when it can benefit them.
Gold-diggers — They have vested interests in your relationship. Beware of them if you have a big bank balance or huge wealth — otherwise, you don’t have to worry.
We all have toxic people around us who dust us with their poison. After being accompanied by them for years, I learned how they got me distracted and depressed all the time they were around me. I asked myself the question; “Why should I deal with those who drain me of my dreams and my goals? and the answer was obviously; I shouldn’t. My first step was to spot them and then get rid of them. I started ignoring them gradually and walking away, — progressively.”
You too might have toxic people around you, who are profaning your life with their insidious tactics and behaviours. They suck your life out, diminish your self-worth, humiliate your abilities and crush your dreams. — It just does not make sense to lower yourself to their level.
The call to action is simply to ignore and walk away from the toxic and unnecessary crazy. Don’t let them tap into your zone and keep you hanging in the dark. See your dreams with your eyes. Know what you stand for and what you can do. And you must learn and have the confidence to say “No” to others in most instances.
Take your first step to spot toxic people and diagnose their harmful behaviours and their impact. — Be confident enough to own your own faults. You can’t change their doings and way of thinking, but you can change what and how you do with them and how you keep your priorities in line.
To sum things up — I had read a Chinese proverb: “If you sleep with a dog, you will wake up with fleas”. The toxic people — whether they’re friends, relatives, university-fellows, social media friends, or colleagues, — contaminate your life — so why stand for the abuse? Getting them out of your life will give you a better chance of enhancing your accomplishments and capabilities.
You have a great mind; never let them contaminate it. — You have a beautiful life; never let them pollute it.
On the other side of the coin; getting yourself surrounded by genuine people will bring you more strength and positivity. They’ll never make you feel regret for sharing your prosperity and growth. They are genuinely proud of your abilities and always delighted by your good fortune.